As COVID-19 continues to infect people across the country, many people are making the decision to still get married, but seriously downsize their list. While it’s hard to do, it’s a responsible decision. However, it can come with some awkwardness.
You might be thinking to yourself, “How in the world do I uninvite 200 people from my wedding?!”
Have no fear, the tips below will help you handle the situation with grace!
Make a list of everyone that you’re really close to. This could be 10 people or 50. Don’t overthink it – if you’d consider them close friends or family, deliver the message personally. I know this can be anxiety-inducing, but hearing it from you personally may soften the blow. Plus, if they’re close to you, they will likely be understanding that you’re doing what’s best for you and your fiance.
Explain to them that it breaks your heart that you can’t have everyone here. It’s okay to tell them it’s hard to deliver this news.
It’s okay to communicate to those you’re not as close to via email. or Facebook Maybe great aunt Janet isn’t invited along with 100 other peripheral family members. Send them an email and let them know your plans have changed. Just be sure to ask them to confirm they’ve received your message, and follow up if necessary… You don’t want them to show up day-of and then have to tell them they’re not welcome because of venue limits.
Consider going virtual for those who can’t be there. Many people are doing Facebook lives or Zoom for those who were invited but no longer make the cut. You could do this in a private Facebook group if you’re not comfortable streaming it to the whole world. There are even vendors who are offering to do this! Ask your photographer if they know anyone who is helping with this or designate a family member or friend to be in charge.
Consider letting those you had to cut a first look at your wedding photos. Before you post them on social media for the world to see, invite them to a private Facebook group, email chain, or Zoom session and share your photos with them. You could even send them a wedding favor and a 4×6 photo of you two letting them know how much they mean to you!
And if you’re the recipient of these messages, be kind! It can be so hard for the person delivering them, and they wanted you there in the first place. If they could have you there, they would. It doesn’t mean you aren’t important to them.